The New Kid on the Block

My son’s first week in his new school was really hard. New country. New city. New school routine. And only one friend with whom he never saw in the halls. No one came up to him to say hello and meet him. They just looked at him and asked if he was a “hold back” from high school and silly things like that. He’s tall and big for his age and a presence to be reckoned with and instantly made the football team.

He spent that first week learning a whole new schedule and education system. He ate lunch alone. Sat in his class alone. Walked around at recess alone.  It was really tough on him. His father passed from cancer last year and we moved closer to home. The transition wasn’t easy, but it was needed.

He came home tonight with a story to tell. He’d met a new boy in school today. He said he went up to him and introduced himself.  He welcomed him. He introduced him to his hard-won friends. Showed him around a bit. He was happy he’d made a new friend and that’s where his mind was.

That’s where I stopped him in his tracks. I asked him- “What made you go over to speak to him?”  He replied, “He seemed like a nice kid and I wanted to say hi and he was standing all alone.  He and I talked and laughed for a long time.”  Again, I asked him why. And he looked at me and said~ “I’m treating him the way I wish I was treated when I was a new student here.” And I asked him, “If you had been treated by someone the way your are treating this new kid, how would you feel about them now?”  He said, “He would be a great friend to me.” So, Jackson now has a friend to add to his circle. One who is grateful and will hopefully remember how he was treated and thus do the same for someone else one day. And that my friends is the Ripple Effect.

I honor my amazing son today with this journal. He took a difficult situation that he was in and looked out at others and instead of treating them the same- he learned and practiced The Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Do not as they have done, but do how you would have wanted it to be done. He broke the ripple of negativity through his own painful experience and created a new experience not only for someone else- but also for himself because now he knows a great way to meet new friends. Humanity could learn a lot from this young man.

Love,

One proud mama!

Saying Goodbye to A Friend for the Last Time

David,

I am so sorry you are looking at losing several friends in a very short time span to cancer. This is very difficult I know for sure. I was privy and witnessed the goodbyes that Jordon made to his friends and his friends to him. I watched their disbelief that this was happening and their sinking hearts when they said goodbye for the last time. It’s an odd feeling physically walking away from a life long friend knowing you will never see them again. The last hug goodbye. The last look in the eye. I know my dear friend. But what I want to tell you is the instantaneous connections that my husband put out to all that he loved after he passed. He visited them in dreams, whistled soft winds over beer bottles in backyard quiet evenings, woke them up and energetically shared some wine with them. Found himself into locker rooms with his friend’s children showing up as his favorite team number. He came through in the form of water and energy and Light. And lastly the night he died, he sent me an email. His words that night were:

Write it down
Write it down, Holly
Write it down.

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Your connection has not ended and will not end with these wonderful souls who are going out too soon for our liking. But just know the connection will never be broken. Never severed. Always cherished. Always loved. And most important while you are in this world and they have moved on to the next~ always connected.

 
Just know I’m here for you, my sweet friend. I love you and so glad you came into my life when I needed you. You were by my side then, and you are today. I wish you peace and comfort for your pain over those you have lost and those you are losing. And know you always have me, as your friend by your side.

Love,

Holly